January 18, 2017

Motherhood: 3 Months


Plush Doll: Baby Starters

Okay, can we just all agree that I’m going to start each month update post with: “how in the heck is my baby [blank] months old?!”. Because seriously, how is little missy 3 months old already?! Harper Rae turned 3 months yesterday and I can’t believe how fast time is going. So much has changed since I gave her 2 month update on here…I swear her personality grows and changes overnight and every day we are so in love with something new she is doing.

This month’s realizations:

  • There are going to be good days and bad days. Some days I feel like super mom and the next day I’ll feel like the worst mama in the world, because I can’t seem to make her happy. Yes, we’re finally starting to be able to distinguish her different cries and exactly what she needs, but I often have to remind myself that she’s a human, just like us. We all have good days and fussy days, so I try not to beat myself up when I just can’t seem to get it right.
  • Don’t feel guilty. I struggled with this the first couple of times we’ve left Harper with my parents while shooting for the blog or sneaking in a super quick date night. I love spending my days with her and I wouldn’t change that for the world, but sometimes even an hour date night or quick brunch date downtown is good for the soul. Philip and I have said from the beginning, we can’t forget to keep dating each other. We absolutely love being parents, but that’s something we told ourselves we would not stop doing. Luckily, my parents live just 5 minutes away and love to spoil watch Harper Rae whenever we give them the chance, so we always know she is in good hands. And then, after a quick outing just the two of us, we’re missing her like crazy and can’t wait to pick her up. And I may or may not have texted my mom the entire time asking for updates and photos…#crazymom.

Her schedule:

I talked about this in last month’s update post, so it’s pretty much the same, with a few minor changes. LIKE HELLO, as of Monday night, she’s sleeping in her crib in her nursery! She’s been sleeping 12 hours each night for weeks now, so we figured it was time for the transition. And yes, I cried the first night she wasn’t in our room. I was nervous she was going to wake up and need us, but she of course slept from 8:00pm-8:00am, with zero problems. I, on the other hand, was up staring at the baby monitor throughout the night making sure she was okay, haha! But I know this will get easier. As nice as it is for Philip and I to be able to talk in our room without whispering after 8:00pm, I definitely miss having her right by my side of the bed!

  • 7:30am: Up for the day! She’s usually super hungry, so I change her and get right to feeding her.
  • 8:00 – 10:30am: After feeding, we typically get on her playmat, do some tummy time, listen to some music, etc for about 30-45 minutes. She is then usually ready for a nap, so I take this time to run any quick little errands. She loves being in her carseat and being out and about.
  • 10:30am: Another feeding. Then we will go on a walk or play a little, she likes to be up for a little bit. Then down for a nap.
  • 1:30pm: Feeding. Then same routine as above until her next feeding.
  • 4:30pm: Feeding. Then I’ll usually put her in her chair and have her in the kitchen with me while I get dinner ready! She used to take a little nap before her final feeding of the night, but her naps are few and far between now, so she usually stays up during this time.
  • 7:30pm: Last feeding of the day. Then we bathe her and then feed her. Then we keep her upright on one of our chests for a little bit, read her a book, rock her, and then she’s swaddled and in her bassinet by 8:15 pm!
  • 8:30pm-8:00am: She sleeps!


I’m actually no longer breastfeeding or pumping. I got another infection a few weeks back and had to be on antibiotics [again!] for 2 weeks so I was having to pump + dump and also not producing as much. So since Harper was on strictly formula and doing just fine, I took this as my cue to gradually stop pumping. It took a couple of weeks to gradually stop, but as of now, I am officially done and Harper is just drinking formula.

Harper’s milestones:

  • Smiling is definitely her favorite! She is one of the happiest babies I’ve ever seen. She has also started to laugh which is hands down the cutest sound ever! She’s responding to our voices and actions and its so funny to see her smile in response to how goofy Philip and I are…she loves it!
  • She is now grabbing onto EVERY.THING. My hair constantly has to be up because her grip is so strong! My hair, my necklaces, shirts, stuffed animals, toys, you name it. Strong little one!
  • She also loves bath time and having her diaper changed [so strange!]. She can be crying and upset and I’ll put her on the changing table and she immediately starts smiling and cooing.
  • She’s almost able to roll over completely on her own now! She can get herself started, I just sometimes have to give a little push at the end to get her fully on her tummy. Speaking of…girlfriend is NOT a fan of tummy time, but we are working on it! Her neck is very strong and she has control over it, but when we try tummy time on her play mat on the floor, she gets frustrated. It does seem to be getting a little better though.

Currently loving:

  • DockATot – this has been a lifesaver! Harper loves being in it, I think because she feels snug and secure. Definitely one of our favorite products.
  • Playmat – we use this for tummy time and it has bright colors and different textures, which is great for babies. This was recommended to me by my good friend Preeti who has a baby boy exactly one month older than Harper, and I’m so glad she told me about it. It’s also huge [but folds up nicely] so it’s great now that Harper is starting to roll over and make moves.
  • Bouncer – Harper loves this thing! It’s actually pretty simple, just a bouncer chair [you can adjust the height] and it has a vibrate option + sounds and music. She absolutely loves being in this. It’s great for when we are cooking or eating…she can be in there with us and isn’t laying on her back, so she can watch us and look around.
  • Swing – this is a recent purchase and its been great so far. Harper doesn’t love the mamaRoo, but she loves the motion of the swing. This one is super light weight, so its easy to move, which I like. It has a vibrate option and also plays sounds + music.
  • Bath tub – Harper LOVES bath time and this tub has been great because it tells you if the water is too cold or too hot. Before her first bath I was so nervous I’d make the water too warm, but this has a sensor and it beeps and the screen turns red if you make it too hot.
  • Bows and shoes – These little Converse couldn’t be cuter! I got them in pink for her and I’m so excited for us both to wear our Converse and match…totally that mom, haha!

Thank yall so much for stopping by! xo!




OMG she’s PRECIOUS!! Love this post – especially because my sweet little boy is a week away from 3 months so they are almost the same age! Girl – I just moved to formula with him because I had FOUR bouts of Mastitis in a five week period so I had to throw in the towel and I get your struggle! I have a couple of questions as I’m still (read: always) trying to figure out Cal’s schedule/routine. How much formula does Harper eat at each feeding? And how long are her naps typically? Cal is going 3.5 hours between feedings now but only naps for like 30-40 minutes at a time! At least he’s sleeping through the night! Love your site, and congrats again on your sweet baby girl! (wish I lived near my parents!!) xo – Katie

    Name: Kate Blue

    Hi Katie! Thank you so much! Congrats on your little man! Such a fun age! That’s amazing he’s sleeping through the night, we are definitely counting our blessings that Harper is. Four times you had mastitis? That’s insane, I am so so sorry! I had it once and it was miserable.
    So she’s eating usually every 3 hours [sometimes a little sooner or a little longer, depending on how hungry or not she is]. And at each feeding she drinks about 5.5-6.5 ounces at each feeding. And her naps are SHORT now. Sometimes she takes 1-2 longer ones, about an hour. But most of them are about 20-30 minutes only now!


Ok this all makes me feel better! We follow BabyWise too – but at his age he’s only eating about 5-6 times a day but eats 4.5-5.5 ounces at each meal and sleeping well at night (even though he only takes “crap” naps) so I’m guessing he’s getting enough! We recently moved him to his crib as well and now put him in the Merlin Magic Sleepsuit and it’s amazing 🙂 Hope Harper continues to do well in her own room! Cheers.

    Name: Kate Blue

    Harper is about the same! She eats 5 times a day and is a good weight says the pediatrician, so this schedule seems to be working! I’ve heard great things about the Merlin Magic Sleepsuit! We use the Halo Sleepsack Swaddle and its been a lifesaver, she loves it and sleeps so well with it!

Name: Sarah Eller

My son, Brody, is just a couple of days younger than Harper (he’ll be 3 months on the 21st) and hates tummy time too. Do you have a boppy lounger? If so, I’ve started using mine for tummy time and he will stay on his tummy MUCH longer than he will if he is flat on the floor. If not, I definitely recommend one! Brody loves lounging in his!

Name: Jaclyn Arcuri

Thank you for this beautiful post! May I ask what formula you use for Harper?

    Name: Kate Blue

    Hi! We use Similac 🙂

Name: Kelly

Oh my goodness, so flipping CUTE!

xx Kelly
Sparkles and Shoes

Name: Courtney

Hi Kate!

Name: Courtney

Hi Kate! I love reading your blog and following you on Instagram. I have always loved your fashion, but now I love your motherhood updates as I just had my first little one as well! She is only 10 days old so I love having all of your updates about Harper just a few months ahead of my little Anniston!

I read Babywise and plan on beginning that soon so your update about her sleep schedule gives me hope as we’re in the thick of the sporadic newborn sleep! Anniston is a great sleeper, but does not love being put in her bassinet. I was considering getting her a DockaTot after reading your post. Did you put that in her bassinet and do you now put that in her crib with her? Would love your advice before I purchase one!

Thanks so much and congratulations on your beautiful girl!

    Name: Kate Blue

    Hi Courtney! Thank you so much! And congratulations on your new little babe, I love her name!!

    I would definitely recommend the DockaTot! Harper loves hers so much. From the beginning, we’d put it in the bassinet, because it was a PERFECT fit…and she would fall right asleep. Even for naps and just lounging, she loves being in the DockaTot, so definitely definitely worth the investment in my opinion!

Name: Riham

Thank you so much for sharing her schedule. Did you sleep train her when she was 2 months (had to let her cry sometimes) or she just started to sleep longer on her own. my daughter is almost 3 months but the doctor recommended waiting until she is four months. Right now she sleeps around 8 and wakes up around 2 for a quick feed then wakes up again around 5:30 am

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